Five “IMO’s” That Might Be Important To You
In my opinion…
You and your children’s lives are not a recovery center for users and abusers—whether or not they are or call themselves addicts.
Treatment practitioners who ask you to take all the risks and absorb all the harm are pretending you and your family are not in an abusive relationship.
It is indefensible for your husband/BF or anyone else to expect you to “save” your “marriage” when he withheld information about himself important enough to have changed a decision to marry him in the first place.
His behavior immediately above is an abuse tactic that will be an abuse pattern in your marriage that continues to disempower you from properly protecting yourself and your children from being harmed by his secret life.
To the best of my knowledge there is not one piece of research meeting minimal standards for academic research publication about the dominant treatment model for men called “sex addicts” that suggests its outcomes are statistically significant in a positive way.
Consider and discuss.
with you,
Diane.